How? I am so glad that you asked, you are showing me that you desire to learn more about what I am talking about today. Let me share 3 things that will help.
- Reading.
Did you know that reading books over television /social media benefits you greatly in life? Reading forces, you to be in the culture, context, moment, emotions and life of the person speaking. When we take the time to do this shutting out all distractions. This something that I did as a father with my children in my home. The purpose was to lead the direction of the children with me demonstrating this along with the help of my spouse (my helper) when I was not present to continue this tradition of teaching, training and impacting my children as I believed the scriptures had instructed me to do.
For example, when I read the life of Jesus and how he communicated with people I see him talking with women (which was very controversial in that day and even today in that part of the world). When I read the Gospels (Matthew, Mark, Luke and John) I am reading personal accounts of people who lived with him for over 3 years
Reading the Apostle Paul’s letters to the men and women who impacted his life and the work that he did for the churches he established allows me to gain instructions and principles that he gave under the direction and guidance of the Holy Spirit in his life that apply universally today. Today God still speaks to mankind in many ways such as: via providence, scripture, authority, wisdom, nature, and through the foolishness of preaching. We are never to worship these things above HIM who is the creator of all things.
***PROVIDENCE ALSO MEANS THAT GOD WILL REDEEM THE DECISIONS OF OTHERS THAT AFFECT YOU AND ARE BEYOND YOUR CONTROL. HE EVEN FORESEES OUR OWN MISTAKES AND HAS A PLAN FOR THE REDEMPTION OF OUR CHOICES***
God has promised us that he will guide us…Psalms 37:23; The steps of a man are established by the Lord, when he delights in his way; (English Standard Version translation) and to those who are in a non-stop relationship with God according to scripture …If they fall, they will not stay down, because the Lord will help them up.
I am old now; I have lived a long time, but I have never seen good people abandoned by the Lord or their children begging for food. At all times they give freely and lend to others, and their children are a blessing [Good News Translation]
If you want to increase your communication skills read aloud from good books such as; the Bible, Brave New World by Aldous Huxley or Lies My Teacher Told Me: Everything Your American History Textbook Got Wrong by James W. Loewen. Avoid books that are flowery and at a childish level. Read 3 times a week for about 30 minutes.
Read aloud to me someone (spouse, teenagers, or babies). Your ears hearing you speak will change your life. Just like the bible has told us over one thousand years ago…’faith comes by hearing and hearing and so on’ It also has warned us about being careful HOW we hear (consider the message over the tone, useless words or our own emotions and basis)… The ear that listens to life-giving reprimand will live among the wise. Proverbs 12:1 ESV and…. James 1:19: “Let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger.”
Defined: hearing has more to do with the physiological act of hearing sounds than it does with making sense and connecting with the person who’s talking to you. Listening, on the other hand, means “to pay attention to sound; to hear something with thoughtful attention; and to give consideration.” …In the Bible TRUE hearing is mixed with corresponding action to god’s kingdom principles to his children (disciples)
** Avoid the lure of binge watching.
TV is a waste of time. It kills your imagination. When you read a book you are exercising your imagination muscle. Every time you focus on the TV or anything on your cell phone/computer you are weakening the brain muscles, you don’t have to imagine anything at all. It is hard to notice at first but it will happen. People need to learn how to create to become more financially prosperous.
2. Optimism
To increase your financial options as a communicator you must possess optimism. Companies will measure for this trait because it is one of the most valuable attributes. How can one do this? With an expression of gratitude as the key. Intentionally take 10 minutes of quiet private time daily and write down 5 things that you are deeply grateful for. This will help shape your health, mood, and effectiveness. WRITE IT DOWN! Repeat this action daily…don’t use a social media tool for this but only use a pen and paper. Do this over a 65 day period. There’s magic in putting things down on paper:
Here’s an example from my journal(s):
Today I am thankful for those who comforted me when I called you the next day after my mother’s burial and said, ‘my mother is gone’ and I began to cry.
- Thank you and I am grateful that you demonstrated love to me as a little boy when I was not related to you by blood and my own blood relatives did not express love to me
- Thank and I am grateful that you allowed Hassan and I to stay with you and Roman, Bobby, Niya and Racheal in 1980 at your home in Detroit
- Thank and I am grateful that you have encouraged me in my writing and sharing my knowledge, wisdom and understanding with all who will hear and practice it
- Thank you for being just a phone call away for me at the age of 54 years old today
3. Learn how to Communicate
Learn how to communicate your ideas that are conceived in your mind. You must learn to give people a picture of your idea and partner with others to help you bring out your thoughts and words that you share with them. Learn how to use words intelligently so that you will have an ‘agreement’ of the definition of terms. Words come out of culture and the meaning of those words and concepts come from the culture and definition that we have been conditioned in. For example, the word success means different things to different people. In order to proceed in the same direction and not have a misunderstanding in the future we must first agree where we are going, how we will know when we get there and if we are off course during the journey or before we begin
Remember, commit yourself to pursue knowledge as a man. Read books READ…. history, the bible, leadership, learn about finance, business etc.
There cannot be mothers without fathers. Shout out to all of the upstanding men in the world today. You are the foundation of the home. A good man will keep the family together as best he can with the help of God. You are designed by God to develop the gifts of children and start generational impact beyond you.
References:
Women who ministered with Jesus; https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jesus%27_interactions_with_women#Women_who_ministered_with_Jesus]
Creativity and Making Money; [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aZIo5BeCB2M]
Hearing vs. listening: https://www.healthline.com/health/hearing-vs-listening
The Key To Successful Communication: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LNr-IULt-jU